27 October 2010

COFFEE Dunn Brothers at Lake and Bryant


Now this is a place with atmosphere! The Dunn Brothers on the southeast corner of Lake and Bryant in Minneapolis is fantastic inside. Its key feature is a circular fireplace in the center with chairs and tables sitting around it. I was there on a gorgeously warm Indian summer day, but you can be sure I’ll be back on a blustery winter day when I can curl up like a cat next to that fireplace.

There was also an outside patio for those beautiful summer days. This is a coffee shop with it all.

821 W. Lake St.
Minneapolis, MN 55408 (On the corner of Lake and Bryant, across from Bryant Lake Bowl.)
Phone: 612-824-6200
Hours of Operation:
Mon.-Fri. 6:00am - 10:00pm
Sat.-Sun. 7:00am - 10:00pm
Other features: Free Wi-Fi internet access

25 October 2010

COFFEE Starbucks on Riverside


Don’t go to the Starbucks at 815 25th Avenue South in Minneapolis unless you’re a Somalian man. Really. I was desperately looking for a quiet coffee shop near my apartment to study one Monday night recently. I spied this place, and turned in. While I got about a half-hour of peace and quiet, then all the men on the patio came inside. The din engulfed me and I could hardly think after that. Plus, I was the only female in the place. It was a little uncomfortable.

I won’t be back — even though it’s attached to a Brueger’s Bagels.

815 25th Ave S (at Riverside Ave.)
Minneapolis, MN 55454-1418
(612) 305-0235
Features: wifi

24 October 2010

COFFEE The Downtown Deli, Mora

What a gem! The Downtown Deli in Mora, Minn. is the type of place you rarely see in a small town. It’s not easy to spot, either, tucked away on a tiny street that looks more like an alley next to City Hall. But the decor is bright and elegant; the food is delish. I tried the roast beef and cheddar with pasta for lunch one day, and was not disappointed. Yum-a-licious.

The deli also hosts food and wine events the second Tuesday of each month from September to May. The event is organized by the Northern Lights Wine Club. Learn more by browsing http://www.northernlightswine.com, emailing WineClub@NorthernLightsWine.com or calling Ross Otto at 218-343-4410.

113 Railroad Ave SE, Mora, MN
(320) 679-5555

10 October 2010

What makes us better than other immigrants?

I feel like I was taught a white-washed version of American history in school. It is only now when I’m 32 that I’m learning about the terrible things we did. My ideals of an American built by immigrants that offers the American dream are being badly shaken.


I learned last week that the United States purposely excluded Chinese and other Asians, including Filipinos (who lived in a country we controlled following a war with Spain) from coming here as citizens. We first banned the Chinese in 1882, spurred on by Californians who were upset about the large numbers there. In fact, the Chinese immigrant group was the largest single group in that state at the time. This terrible act, the Chinese Exclusion Act, was renewed again in 1892 and again — this time indefinitely— in 1902.


According to Wikipedia:


“The Chinese Exclusion Act was one of the most significant restrictions on free immigration in U.S. history. For all practical purposes, the Exclusion Act, along with the restrictions that followed it, froze the Chinese community in place in 1882, and prevented it from growing and assimilating into U.S. society as European immigrant groups did.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_Exclusion_Act


But that wasn’t enough, apparently. In 1924, another immigration act — this time targeted at the Japanese, was passed. It limited immigration from all Asian nations — again, including the Philipines which the United States was in possession of, leaving the Filipinos as neither aliens nor citizens, but somewhere in between. They didn’t have their own country.


According to Wikipedia:


“The Immigration Act of 1924, or Johnson–Reed Act, including the National Origins Act, Asian Exclusion Act (43 Statutes-at-Large 153), was a United States federal law that limited the number of immigrants who could be admitted from any country to 2% of the number of people from that country who were already living in the United States in 1890.


“The Act barred specific origins from the Asia-Pacific Triangle, which included Japan, China, the Philippines (then under U.S. control), Siam (Thailand), French Indochina (Laos, Vietnam,and Cambodia), Singapore (then a British colony), Korea, Dutch East Indies (Indonesia), Burma (Myanmar), India, Ceylon (Sri Lanka) and Malaysia.[4] Based on the Naturalization Act of 1790, these immigrants, being non-white, were not eligible for naturalization, and the Act forbade further immigration of any persons ineligible to be naturalized.


In the 10 years following 1900, about 200,000 Italians immigrated annually. With the imposition of the 1924 quota, 4,000 per year were allowed. At the same time, the annual quota for Germany was over 57,000. 86% of the 155,000 permitted entries were from Northern European countries, with Germany, Britain, and Ireland having the highest quotas.


“The Act set no limits on immigration from Latin America.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Immigration_Act_of_1924


I have to ask why. Why were those in the United States unwilling to welcome additional immigrants? What happened? An article at www.wisegeek.com suggests this:


In arguments which seem familiar to modern followers of the immigration debate, Asians were accused of taking white jobs and causing social unrest.” http://www.wisegeek.com/what-was-the-asian-exclusion-act.htm


Wow. That does sound familiar — consider the Hispanic immigrant debate going on right now.


The article continued: “Modern-day Chinatown may be a popular tourist destination, but it was once the only place in which Chinese could safely live. ... It is an important part of American history, especially because some Americans are unaware of the widespread discrimination faced by Asians until the middle of the twentieth century.” I know I sure was unaware of this.


I can’t help but question why immigrants would exclude other immigrants. When it come down to it, that’s what we all are, all of us but the Native Americans, that is. The rest of us, well, we sailed here from other lands — Sweden, Denmark, Britian, Ireland, France, Germany, Africa, Asia, etc. Why do we think that just because we got here first that we have the right to say we won’t accept others?


20 September 2010

Selling a house — it’s a lot of paperwork

This is my first time selling a house and I’m just amazed at the number of steps involved in the process.

First, there was the decluttering and cleaning. Then we put the house on the market and waited for potential buyers to come look at it. We waited a long time, five months in fact, but then we had two parties who were both real interested. We hoped for a bidding war, of course, but that didn’t materialize. We were left with one poky buyer. After the negotiations were completed, we signed the purchase agreement. The next night we had to sign the disclosures; although we had signed them when we first put the house on the market we had to sign them again after the buyer signed them so that we all agreed that everything was still the same as it was in February.

My realtor told us things were still iffy until the home inspection, which we set up for a few days after we’d signed the purchase agreement. I let the inspector in and then had to leave the house for three hours; my fingers were crossed until we got the results of the inspection almost a full 24 hours later. (Yeah, he and the realtor were slow.) We had to resolve whatever issue there was within two days; luckily for us, there was a weekend in there. We had a big issue to resolve, but were able to resolve it without us, the sellers, having to put forth any more money.

I thought things would be done then until we showed up at the closing to sign the house over. I was wrong. There seems to be something new every day.

A week after the home inspection was the appraisal. A stranger came to the house and looked it over with a sharp eagle eye, making his assessment of what the home is worth. After walking quickly through the home — with me trying my best to sell the features and point out the upgrades we’d made — he sat in his car in the church parking lot across the street and made his determination. My realtor told me if it came in low, we’d have to renegotiate terms. I kept my fingers crossed again. The assessor had made a big deal about telling me that due to new federal regulations, he is no longer able to talk to loan officers about anything. Too many people had been abusing appraisals, apparently. Well, when the appraisal for our house came in, it just so happened to be at the exact figure the buyer was getting the home for. Hmmm... Sounds suspicious to me. I’m pretty sure there was some hanky-panky stuff going on between that appraiser and loan officer.

A man showed up in my yard a few days ago unannounced. I went out to see what he was doing there and he informed me he was from the title company. He was there to verify the property lines and make sure there were no encroachments. I showed him the two stakes standing in the back, and then the general whereabouts of the front two. He was there about a half-hour, leaving several flags behind. I guess I won’t need to worry about

I also got a few calls from the title company this week. Bonnie needed the account number and security number of my current mortgage with Wells Fargo. Uh-oh. Two weeks ago we packed up all our files into giant boxes and they were stuffed into a moving pod. I don’t even have a general number to call Wells Fargo. Without that account number there was apparently no way to make sure that the money coming from our buyer would pay off our mortgage. Uh-oh. It took a frustrating call to that big corporation to get my account number. And after that, Bonnie needed to verify what my name is now. Because I got married after building this house, I’m going to need to sign my name even more than usual on the documents, including as “formerly known as so and so” (just like Prince).

All of this has been on top of frantically searching for a new house, packing up the old and finding an apartment to rent in the interim. Whew. Did I mention I hate moving?

I am planning to call all our utility companies to stop service the day of closing, as well as my insurance agent to cancel homeowner’s insurance. And I need to drop into the post office to ask them to hold my mail until we find a permanant home.

Also, the day of closing I guess the buyer will do a walk-through of the house to make sure it’s still in good condition and he still wants it. The house needs to be completely emptied of our stuff before he comes, and we have to be gone by then. His realtor called mine yesterday to ask if they could do it the afternoon before. I said no. They’re a bit pushy. It’s not his until he signs for it, and that isn’t until Friday at 11 a.m.

I’m not sure what else is going to pop up in the final week before closing, but I guess I won’t be surprised at anything. There are a lot of steps involved in selling a home. Now I know.

07 September 2010

To you potential home buyers, Part III


Don’t trust home inspectors. Now, I’m sure there are some good home inspectors out there, ones with construction background, but most of them merely took a class and started shop. They don’t really know what separates a good home from a bad.


Case in point: A home inspector went through my beautiful, mostly new house last week. This house passed all its inspections when it was built just five years ago. Now, as a homeowner, I could have chosen to do something crazy in those intervening five years, a storm could have damaged the outside, or I could have done something stupid to destroy something inside. And that’s why home inspections before a real estate transaction are necessary.


But this home inspector stated that the fascia was faulty. To be specific, he said that whoever did the fascia on this home needed to go back to school. He further stated that the entire thing needed to be redone.


Now, I happen to know the contractor who put the fascia on my home. I know him very, very well. It’s my father. My meticulous, perfection-isn’t-good-enough father who has been in the construction trade since he was old enough to swing a hammer beside his father. Siding — and with it soffit and fascia — are his specialty. In fact, you could say he’s an expert on it.


So the idea that he did it wrong was preposterous.


And the fact that the home inspector stated he needed to go back to school was, well, it was offensive. Even more, it was unprofessional.


The thing is, home inspectors don’t actually need to have any construction background before becoming a home inspector. There’s a test to pass, but the rest is, well, up to them. They apply their own opinions to their inspections, and if they have no real-world experience, those opinions are often faulty. In my family of construction workers, the term “home inspector” is a curse word. In most cases, these home inspectors don’t really know much. But the problem is they have a lot of power. If a home inspector says there’s a problem, he will likely scare a buyer off. If the buyer sticks around, the “issue” is going to cost the seller time and money to get it fixed.


There are certainly some issues with homes that need to be fixed, and there are certainly good home inspectors out there. The lesson here: Hire home inspectors with construction experience, preferably contractor experience. Use one that had a good reputation as a contractor and one that has a good reputation now as a home inspector. My realtor advises her buyers to bring their friends with to look at homes, the ones that are actively working as electricians, plumbers and sheetrockers. Get opinions from folks you can trust.


I’m just lucky we were able to convince our buyer that my contractor knew more about fascia than his home inspector. It was touch and go for a few days — and that’s a horrible situation to be in as a seller.

06 September 2010

To you potential home buyers, Part II


I just can’t help but think that every evil in our society would be remedied if we remember the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have done to yourself. It seems very fitting when it comes to real estate transactions.


For example: Say you are “Mark” and you’re in the market for a house. You’re moving into the area from Canada because you’ve accepted a new job here. It’s July and you start work on September 1. You visit my house on July 2, and then see it again a few weeks later. Then your realtor calls up mine and tells me you’re going to submit an offer by Friday, July 23. Well, that Friday comes and goes, as does the next and then the next. As home owners, we’ve given up on you. Then suddenly you make a low offer. It’s not low enough to piss us off, but it’s lower than we wanted. So, we begin to negotiate.


This is not a good time for you to take off to Mexico for a week.


Especially considering you want to close on the house by mid-September.


When it takes one and a half weeks to respond to a figure from the seller, well, that’s considered bad form. You’re supposed to respond within 2 days. Did your realtor forget to tell you that?


Of course, your bad form is a little more understandable when your realtor then takes off for 5 days in the middle of the negotation process. So now, what should have been wrapped up in July takes until the fourth week of August.


You the buyer have now given us just 3 weeks to find a house and avoid being homeless.


I wish you would have considered our timeline as well as your own. I wish you would have realized that when you get a house, someone else is losing one. I wish you would have applied the Golden Rule and considered how your actions would affect another.


Yep, we’d all be better off if we considered the Golden Rule more often.

05 September 2010

To you home buyers


For all you potential home buyers out there, I’d like to make a small request.


Please consider the people who own the houses you’re looking at.


Consider the time and effort they have to put into making their house shine for you. It’s not easy when you have kids, especially, to leave a house spotless for a showing. Every thing I put away, my daughter pulls back out. It takes 3-4 times to get it away for good. Then she needs a snack, and the crumbs cover the entire kitchen floor. We are usually at home, so leaving for a showing is a big deal and typically interupts nap time. It’s not fun to wake a toddler up in the middle of the nap because someone is coming to look at the house.


But I’m happy to do it if the house sells.


What isn’t great is if I go to all that work — and then the potential buyer never even shows up. According to my realtor, it happens a lot. Folks just don’t show up. They might not even call their realtor to let them know they won’t be coming. In case you didn’t realize it, when you do that, you’ve not only wasted the time of the home owner, but also the staff of 2 real estate offices who spent time making calls and setting up those appointments.


So, please, next time you’re scoping out houses, remember the Golden Rule. Do unto others...

04 September 2010

Cloth diapers


I love cloth diapers. I don't understand why everyone doesn't use them. They're better for the environment. They're easy to use. And they're oh so cute!

If you're going the cloth diaper route, here are a few things to consider:

Get a diaper sprayer. It's a must have! We bought the one from Bum Genius, but I think a few others make good ones too. My husband first tried to make his own sprayer, figuring it would be cheaper. After spending about the same on supplies as specific diaper sprayer costs, he hooked it up, we tried it and noticed a puddle on the floor that didn't go away. So, it was off to shop online and we ended up with the Bum Genius one. It was easy to install and has worked great. It's so easy to spray out the gunk with one of those. I don't know how people do it without a brush. I have a plastic garbage can with a lid next to the toilet. I spray out the diaper and into the bin it goes. I wash diapers about every 2/3 days.

I've used a bunch of different brands in my quest to find the best cloth diaper for my chunky-legged monkey. I wasn't thrilled with the Bum Genius diapers.They were hard to clean. I used the all in ones and the insert didn't come out. It got stained pretty quick. They also take a long time to dry because of the insert -- they're so thick.

The diapers I REALLY love are the Thirsties. They come in the cutest, brightest colors, fit well, and wash really easy. But these days my favorites are the basic white Motherease. We add an insert and they work great overnight. Others may be cuter, but these ones just work well.

Stay away from Kushies from Walmart - they NEVER come clean, and don't keep stuff IN very well either. I've got lots of Kissaluvs - they come so soft and adorable, but quickly get worn out and lose the softness.

Instead of using wet wipes I bought a bunch of baby wash clothes (20 or so) and a wipe warmer. Keep the washclothes wet in the wipe warmer (add water every day). They're warm. It's Josey's favorite thing about diaper changes! She's never been a baby who disliked the diaper change and I think that's because she loves that warmness on her butt!

A MUST is Biokleen Bac Out. I love that stuff. After I spray the diaper clean with water, I spray it with the Bac Out. It smells like lime and helps keep the wet diaper bin from smelling up the bathroom. It works so well. You can buy it at any Coop. After I decided I liked it, I bought 4 gallons off Amazon to save $ and avoid running out. I was using a bottle every other week, but the four gallons have lasted me a year.

The easiest way to whiten a diaper is just to dry it in the sun. Hard to do in the winter. I'm waiting for that sunlight to come back to get mine back to beautiful. I was AMAZED at how fast and easily that worked. A few hours and presto. White.

If you notice your diapers start to smell, most likely you're using too much soap when you wash them. Use only about a teaspoon of soap. The soap builds up easily and stops the diapers from doing their work; they can't absorb anymore. And yeah, there's the smell issue. I usually wash with a second rinse. Every few weeks I wash them 1/2 more times in just water to keep the soap from building up. That's actually been the most troublesome part of the cloth diapering system for me. I've been searching for a good laundry soap too, but haven't found one I'd recommend yet.

A great resource for mothering stuff is kellymom.com. She does alot on breastfeeding, but also cloth diapers and other issues.

03 September 2010

Babies love bowling — who would have thought?


When you take a baby out in public, you never know what will happen. Will she enjoy the excursion? Will she cling to you? Will she run off? WIll she scream and throw her body down on the floor to let you know this isn’t something she feels like doing today?


I wasn’t sure how my Josey would take to bowling. It seemed like something a 17-month-old might not enjoy but I thought I’d give it a try. After all, it was free thanks to my friend’s GroupOn, so I wouldn’t be out anything if we ended up at a park instead.


She loved it. I couldn’t believe how easy bowling is for kids now. We went to Park Tavern in St. Louis Park. Their stuff is mechanized, so when you input names you can add that its a kid and then everytime that child is up to bowl, the bumpers automatically go up. We also used a ramp — which was perfect for the two 17-month-old toddlers. My daughter loves balls, and thought pushing the ball and then watching it roll down the lane was great fun. The first time she clapped for herself — and then dashed away before the pins were even hit. The fun is in the ball — not the pins, apparently.


Of course, we had our crazy moments. Josey climbed up on the thing that the bowling balls shoot back up into, and little Judah wanted to run down the lane. After about 1/2 hour, both of the toddlers had decided they’d had enough. Josey wanted to run around and visit all the folks bowling and check out every hiding place in the bowling alley. Judah wanted to be held — and it’s hard to bowl yourself when you’re holding a baby.


So we left after completing one game, and headed to the park across the street to enjoy the lunches we’d packed. My verdict on bowling with babies? Tons of fun.

02 September 2010

Not just a wave pool anymore


When I was a teenager, it was cool to go to the Bunker Park wave pool. However, that was awhile ago and I hadn't been there in years. When a GroupOn deal popped up for the place, I checked out the web site and discovered there was more there than just a wave pool. There was a lazy river, a splash pad and waterslides. So, we went.

It was tons of fun. My 8-year-old nephew, my mom and I loved the waterslides. There were just enough (2 with tubes and 4 body) to keep us occupied for the afternoon. My daughter enjoyed the stuff for smaller kids. However, I do think the water level was too deep for a 16-month-old. She looked like she was drowning most of the time.They do have some weird rules that will keep us from going there frequently (can't bring in your own food or beverage, have to use a double tube on the lazy river even when you're holding your little girl -- which leaves you lopsided in the water about to fall off the tube!) and you also have to buy a park sticker to get into the facility, but it's a fun place to visit every so often.

http://www.bunkerbeach.com/

Bunker Beach is open daily, from 11 a.m. – 7 p.m., from June 5, 2010 through Labor Day.

Regular Admission:
Guest over 48" - $14 per day
Guest under 48" or Senior Citizen (age 62 and over) - $11 per day
Under 1 year of age - free

Twilight Admission (After 4:00 p.m.):
Guest over 48" - $10 per day
Guest under 48" or Senior Citizen (age 62 and over) - $8 per day

Season Pass:
Guest over 48" tall - $80.00
Guest under 48" tall or Senior Citizen - $55.00

Vehicle entrance pass: $5/daily

02 August 2010

More baby blessings - Gaelic

I went hunting for more Baby Blessings, this time with a Scottish slant as the father traces his ancestry back to Scotland. There are some really beautiful Gaelic blessings. Here are a few of my favorites.


Traditional Gaelic Blessing


We bathe your palms

In the showers of wine,

In the crook of the kindling,

In the seven elements,

In the sap of the tree,

In the milk of honey,

We place nine pure, choice gifts

In your clear beloved face:

The gift of form,

The gift of voice,

The gift of fortune,

The gift of goodness,

The gift of eminence,

The gift of charity,

The gift of integrity,

The gift of true nobility,

The gift of apt speech.



Scottish Blessing

May the blessing of light be on you

Light without and light within.

May the blessed sunlight shine on you like a great peat fire,

So that stranger and friend may come and warm himself at it.

And may light shine out of the two eyes of you,

Like a candle set in the window of a house,

Bidding the wanderer come in out of the storm.

May the blessing of the rain be on you,

May it beat upon your Spirit

And wash it fair and clean,

And leave there a shining pool where the blue of Heaven shines,

And sometimes a star.

May the blessing of the earth be on you,

Soft under your feet as you pass along the roads,

Soft under you as you lie out on it, tired at the end of day;

And may it rest easy over you when, at last, you lie out under it.

May it rest so lightly over you

That your soul may be out from under it quickly;

Up and off and on its way to God.


Scottish Blessing


If there is righteousness in the heart,

There will be beauty in the character.

If there is beauty in the character,

There will be harmony in the home.

If there is harmony in the home,

There will be order in the nation.

If there is order in the nation,

There will be peace in the world.

So let it be.


Old Irish Curse


May those that love us, love us

And those that don't love us,

May God turn their hearts,

And if he doesn't turn their hearts

May He turn their ankles,

So we will know them by their limping.


25 July 2010

Baby shower blessing

Ratchet up the “wonderful” factor of the next baby shower you plan by including a “blessing” ceremony. The most recent soon-to-be mom we blessed was my sister-in-law Elizabeth, who is due at the end of August. She wasn’t sure what to expect when I proposed that we include the baby blessing, but she said “yes” anyway. I think the toughest part about doing a baby blessing is explaining it to guests who have no idea what to expect either. I try to send out a link to videos of past ones that I’ve been a part of (including my own), but even then it’s a bit confusing.


The important thing to know is that this is a way to honor the mom-to-be. It’s a way to empower her. It’s a way to let her know how much everyone cares about her, and how glad they are to welcome this new baby — and not just that, but how they intend to support the new family. It’s not a place to share advice. Instead, some folks find a meaningful poem, quote or Bible verse. Others write something up themselves.


Each writes what they have to share down and brings it to the shower; this way, it can be added to a scrapbook. We also have folks bring a bead so that we can make a bracelet for the new mom to wear during labor.


Most moms cry. Alot of the friends and family members cry too when it’s their turn to talk.


A baby blessing makes a shower more than an event about gifts. It adds meaning. I’ll never host another baby shower without having such a special ceremony be part of it.




24 July 2010

Splash Pad #2 - Princeton, Minn.






Summer is about splashing, and in early July we visited a local splash park. After going out of our way a bit by heading south to Isanti and then west to Princeton to avoid the Highway 95 detour, we made it. I have to tell ya, finding the splash park isn’t easy. Go past McDonald’s and the hospital, and follow the road as it makes a sharp turn and takes you back the way you just came. Then turn into Mark Park at 11th Avenue South and Fifth Street South. Now, you’ll think you’ve arrived at a ballfield complex. Keep driving through the parking lot and you’ll reach a few buildings. It’s to the left of that. Confusing, yes.


But after you’ve made it, you’ll be glad you discovered this jewel of a splash park. Spacious with a number of umbrella-covered picnic tables, it’s a great spot to spend an afternoon or entire day. The cost per day is $4; got a bigger family? It’s $15 for all of you. The splash park is open from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. Memorial Day to Aug. 15 and from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. from Aug. 16 to Labor Day, weather permitting. Snacks (chocolate bars and chips) are sold by the same teenager who reminds kids to walk and stay out of the pump area.


We were at the splash park on a hot and humid day, the kind where you just want to sit and be still. The splash park was so refreshing. We’ll be back.


http://www.princetonmn.org/index.asp?Type=B_BASIC&SEC={17341848-BF64-49BA-80C3-8DC7B0C35755}

23 July 2010

Local music scene

I love listening to lesser-known, but quite talented musicians. For the past 6 or so years, I've been a part of a group in Cambridge that brings in musical groups to the high school. At theHardy Center we try to offer a range of artists. We've had Ladysmith Black Mumbazo, Jay Ungar and Molly Mason, Go Fish, Greg Brown, Leon Redbone, Michael Monroe, Jeffrey Steele,Clearwater Hot Club and more. I go to shows, knowing that even if I've never heard the musician before, I'll leave a fan. It never fails.

I am also blessed to be good friends with another talented musician. Christopher Becknell took violin lessons for years, and then taught himself guitar. After having the basics down, he took classical guitar lessons -- a genre I hadn't know existed before. Christopher has broadened my musical horizons. I've been fan of each musical group he's been a part of. With the baby, I don't get a chance to catch many of his (late-night) shows, but I was thrilled this summer when I saw he had two day time shows. The first was at the wonderful Art Fair along St. Anthony in June. The second was on the steps of the Northrup Auditorium on the U of M campus and was especially for all of us who worship the sun.

12 July 2010

Romantic bike ride




For our anniversary this year, the hubby and I decided to do dinner and a bike

ride, part of our new plan to bike together as a family. And no, by "bike" I don't mean "motorcycle." I actually mean "bicycle" again.


I have to admit since I started to drive a car, I've only been on my

bicycle a handful of times. There was the time I decided to start biking to work (which lasted one day), and the time I decided to start biking on vacation again (which lasted one weekend trip to Itasca State Park). But now that I have a child I’ve decided it's time to get back into it. When I think back on my own childhood, most memories involve a bike. We biked to town almost every day when I was a kid. At the least, we biked to the neighbor's and

around our cul-de-sac. I remember the trips my parents took us and the miles of trails we covered across this state.


I figure that as an added benefit, this biking might help me shed the last pregnancy pounds I've got!


So, using Google's new tool for locating bike trails (I love my Google phone aps!), we found one near the restaurant we were heading to on our anniversary. We hoped onto the Ground Rounds trail system by the Columbia Heights Golf Course, parking on a neighborhood street. Then we headed towards the Mississippi River. Along the way, we passed over a huge train yard, crossing from one park area to another. Because of road and bridge construction, the area near the river was practically deserted. We saw one other couple riding bikes; otherwise, we had the place to ourselves.




22 June 2010

Splash Pad 1: Oak Park




This summer is the year of splash parks.

Josey loves water and I enjoy getting out of the house. Sadly, there is no splash park (or even public beach) in Cambridge, so we have to venture out for our water fun. The closest splash park is in Princeton, and we plan to head that way soon (braving the detour on Highway 95). A few weeks back we started our summer by visiting Oak Hill Splash Pad in St. Louis Park. What a fun place!

Josey and I were joined by two other moms. Our kids range from 14 months to 8 years. They all had a blast. The web site at http://www.stlouispark.org/neighborhood-parks/oak-hill-splash-pad.html boasts that the splash pad is like running through the sprinkler on a grand scale. There are bubbling hoses, water nozzles and spri

nkler arches, as well as the ever-popular buckets that randomly surprise kids by dumping water when they fill.

I most appreciated the fence around the Splash Pad that kept my little wanderer close by. Moms and kids were parked around the edges; someone planned it just right to be sure the water nozzles wouldn’t reach the shaded benches. That deserves a big thank you! Food isn’t allowed in the Splash Pad, so we set up our picnic just outside the fence.

The splash pad is in a park with two playground areas and a picnic shelter. When the kids got tired of the water, they headed for the swings. Oak Hill Park is located at 3201 Rhode Island Avenue South, about 5 minutes west of Highway 100. The entire area is free — what a bonus. Hours are 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. May 28 to Sept. 12, weather dependent. There are changing rooms and restrooms, as well as an indoor pavillion. Little ones should wear swim diapers; rubber soled water shoes are recommended.

15 June 2010

Love and Service to All in ‘The Lord of the Rings’

by Tesha M.C. Pettit


An author who revels in Old Norse literature that stresses the importance of the hierarchical Lord/thegn relationship to the death, J.R.R. Tolkien allows his characters to disobey their lords, and not only that, but goes so far as to hold that behavior up as a standard of what is right instead of what was traditionally viewed as good. In The Lord of the Rings, Tolkien stresses love and service to All rather than a focus on Self; this interpretation of Tolkien’s work, which was first presented by Rose Zimbardo (69) in 1968, is shown throughout the six-book novel in a complicated string of events. I will focus on the dueling natures of rulers Denethor and Théoden; through a detailed analysis of their relationships with thegns Peregrin and Meriadoc, two Hobbits, the point Tolkien is trying to make shines through: serving the All as Théoden does is more exemplary than serving Self as Denethor does. Only then can Aragorn’s apotheosis from Ranger to King, his merciful attitude towards his retainers, and his service to All the people of Middle-earth be fully appreciated.

Tolkien reinvents the Germanic idea of servitude and reflects his Catholic values in this work of fiction by weaving examples of both bad and good side-by-side in order to teach readers about what he considers the ultimate lord/thegn relationship to be: that of the Christian God to his servants, marked by a consideration of others before Self. But as he avoids outright religion in The Lord of the Rings, he stays away from direct Christian comparisons and instead reinvents the traditional motifs in such a way as to illustrate what he thinks is important. Transforming the act of disobedience is one of Tolkien’s most compelling tools. While the Old English Norse culture valued pride and honor above all at the expense of many lives, Tolkien shows how there is something more powerful: love. It is love that drives the fellowship in The Lord of the Rings, love that triumphs over evil, love that remains at the end. To start this study, it is imperative to evaluate Tolkien’s attitude towards the traditional Germanic concept of the Lord/thegn relationship as evident in what he wrote about Beorhtnoth and the Battle of Maldon. Following that, a close examination of the details of Denethor’s rigid Lord/retainer relationship with Pippin in contrast to how Théoden treats his thegn Merry will illustrate how Aragorn represents the fulfillment of Tolkien’s treatment of the Lord/thegn debate.

THE WORST: Beorhtnoth

To begin, we must consider how the theme of disobedience is not confined to one incident in The Lord of the Rings; rather, we see it repeated time and again. Pippin disobeys Denethor -- and convinces Beregond to do the same -- in order to save Faramir’s life. Merry and Èowyn were told to stay home to be safe, but instead both ride to battle in Gondor and bring about the death of the Nazgul Witch King. Hama does not take Gandalf’s staff; Sam refuses to leave Frodo to die in the Orc fortress and continue on to Mount Doom alone; and Gollum disobeys master Frodo when he bites off Frodo’s ringfinger and thus saves Middle-earth.

Why is disobedience such a common occurrence? Tolkien is actively combating the idea in Germanic literature that a thegn must follow his lord’s lead no matter what the consequence by presenting a pattern of disobedience in The Lord of the Rings. Tolkien appears to be saying that there are very good reasons for disobedience, and sometimes it is only because of the disobedience that good happens, such as the killing of the Witch King by Èowyn and the freeing of Théoden from Wormtongue’s spell. These instances of disobedience are closely tied up with Tolkien’s concern for both allegiance and choice, for loyalty and free will, as Marjorie Burns keenly observes (147). The disobedience stems from love and care rather than from hate and ill will.

In Anglo-Saxon society, the ideal structure was one of comitatus, (“followers”) staying loyal to their leader even in death. As Stuart D. Lee and Elizabeth Solopova explain:

“It goes back as far as Tacitus’ descriptions of the Germanic tribes in Germania (14) in which he states: ‘it is infamy during life … to return alive from a battle where their Prince is slain.’ This, it would appear, is indicative of the Anglo-Saxon ideal of the warriors defending their lord. This relationship essentially represents the structure of Anglo-Saxon society in which the lord, brave and noble, rewards his followers with land and rings and protection at the political/strategic level, whilst in return they are loyal to him to the death, the most ignoble act being the desertion of his body on the field of battle” (219).

Tolkien’s discordant view of the expectations of a thegn to his lord are most clearly shown in his poem The Homecoming of Beorhtnoth, Beorhthelm’s Son, a work commonly viewed as a meditation on the faults of the heroic spirit. In Tolkien’s commentary on the poem, he first provides background information on Beorhtnoth, the duke of Essex who last led his men to battle against the Vikings near Maldon in 991. He was “a man renowned in his day: powerful, fearless, proud,” observes Tolkien (Reader 3). When the Danes arrived, they posited that a fair fight could only be fought if they were allowed to cross the river causeway, cunningly avoiding the resolute defenses of the Englishmen. Writes Tolkien:

“Beorhtnoth accepted the challenge and allowed them to cross. This act of pride and misplaced chivalry proved fatal. Beorhtnoth was slain and the English routed; but the duke’s ‘household,’ his heordwerod, containing the picked knights and officers of his bodyguard, some of them members of his own family, fought on, until they all fell dead besides their lord” (Reader 5).

This acquiescence to the Viking request is attributed to Beorhtnoth’s ofermod, his pride and overconfidence, in the original version of the incident found in the incomplete poem The Battle of Maldon. What is ofermod? At its most basic, ofermod means “over courage,’ but the word has negative connotations as mod can also mean “arrogance” and “pride” leading to a translation of “too much pride,” according to Tom Shippey. He adds that Tolkien translated it as “overcasting pride,” suggesting that Beorthtnoth made his mistake out of the diabolical pride created by heroic tradition as expressed in Old English poetry (Roots 331). In other words, the fault of the heroic tradition is a mindset of the Self rather than the All, the diabolical Lucifer versus the selfless Christ. Tolkien saw many problems with this Norse/Germanic “heroic tradition,” especially as it played out in Nazi Germany. In his version of the Battle of Maldon, told after the fray by the fictional characters Torthelm and Tîdwald as they search for Beorhtnoth’s body, Tolkien refers to the ruler as “Too proud, too princely! / But his pride’s cheated and his princedom has passed” (Reader 16). Tîdwald states: “Our lord was at fault.” In another essay on Beorhtnoth titled Overmod, Tolkien comments scathingly on the duke: “Yet this element of pride, in the form of a desire for honour and glory, in life or after death, tends to grow, to become the chief motive, driving a man beyond the bleak heroic necessity to excess -- to chivalry” (22). While most roundly praise the northern heroic spirit, Tolkien argues that its drawback is that it drives men “to outstrip their bravery” (Lee and Solopova 222). In his desire to be a hero, Beorhtnoth was prepared to sacrifice not only his own life, but those of his retainers. Tolkien fundamentally disagrees with Beorhtnoth’s actions, according to Shippey: “Tolkien’s view was that he had no right to expend the lives of his men as well as his own” (Essay 332). To combat this false view of heroism, Tolkien set out to show what true heroism -- one that can be integrated with Christianity -- would look like when he wrote The Lord of the Rings. In contrast to Beorhtnoth’s irresponsible behavior, in The Lord of the Rings, Tolkien provides readers with examples of responsible leaders; but for that to be effective, however, Tolkien also had to show what an excess of the northern heroic style looked like in the character of Denethor.

THE BAD: Pippin & Denethor

To fully appreciate the lessons to be learned through Denethor’s character, we must first realize that the conflict of The Lord of the Rings is found not merely in presenting good characters and evil characters, but in closely contrasting similar characters with one another, such as Denethor with Théoden. “Tolkien’s best characterizations … are based on more than two-sidedness and mixed attitudes. Their complexity derives instead from a shadowing and matching with other characters,” says Burns (5), who is not the only one to see this pattern. Jane Chance stresses in several essays how Tolkien’s entire works illustrate this balance of good versus evil in the world, and how people can tip over to the other side quite easily. Frodo nearly becomes Gollum when he refuses to take off the ring at Mount Doom, and ironically it is Gollum who saves Frodo by biting off his finger and falling to his doom in the fires of Mount Doom. This is a Christian concept: Satan versus God, evil versus good, and how all men can easily be one or the other (“the hero must realize that he can become the monster” [Epic 200]). In the Bible, there are many men who are teetering on this border: David did wrong with Bathsheba; Peter denied Christ three times. What saves them from everlasting doom is love. In The Lord of the Rings, the love Merry holds for Théoden drives him to pledge his allegiance as a squire of Rohan. Théoden loves his subjects and marches off to fight Sauron to save them and the rest of Middle-earth. Because of Gandalf’s love for the members of the fellowship, he fights the Balrog. Love is the highest law, according to Tolkien.

Denethor is the antithesis to this belief. It is through him that Tolkien illustrates the folly of pride and service to Self. Chance observes that the leadership styles of the tyrannical Denethor and Théoden are complementary: “The tyrant commands his followers by edict, rule and law; the true leader commands through respect and love, like a benign father to son” (Mythology 100). There are many similarities between the two. Both are rulers of their lands, but both are manipulated by evil counselors (Théoden by Grima Wormtongue and Denethor by Sauron through the palantir) and so fall into despair as evil enters their lands rather than to action. Both lose a son in The Lord of the Rings: Théoden’s son Théodred is slain in the West Marches a few days before Gandalf arrives at his court, and Denethor’s son Boromir dies protecting hobbits, Pippin and Merry, from the Orcs. Their reactions to trials sets these leaders apart. Both Denethor and Théoden suffer from depression, but while Théoden takes the way out as offered by Gandalf despite his sorrow “that these evil days” should be his (TT 121), Denethor refuses his aid, reminding Gandalf that he is the ruler in Gondor and as thus won’t be made “a tool of other men’s purposes” (RK 30).

In the character of Denethor, Tolkien mingles an excess of heroic temper; you might even say it is the ancient Ragnarok spirit, points out Shippey (Road 173). He trusts his own sense of what is important and is easily offended by counsel. There is no purpose higher for Denethor than his own rule: “And that is a sentiment that the Dark Lord could express too -- except that each means his rule to prevail,” Richard Purtill observes (85). Denethor’s own words betray him as a poor ruler, and this is amplified in his relationship with Pippin. Denethor places Himself first above the greater All of his kingdom. When Gandalf and Pippin enter his hall, he scorns Gandalf’s counsel. Rather than consider what will happen to his people if the Dark Lord attacks, Denethor has allowed himself to be consumed by his own grief at the loss of his eldest son Boromir. While he acknowledges that there is much else to speak of with Gandalf, “much of more import,” to him it is “less pressing” (RK 29). He would rather focus on his personal darkness.

Prior to Pippin’s first meeting with Denethor, Gandalf warns him: “Be careful with your words, Master Peregrin! … Théoden is a kindly old man. Denethor is of another sort, proud and subtle, a man of far greater lineage and power, though he is not called a king” (RK 25). The comparison of Théoden to Denethor here is certainly no accident but is intentional by Tolkien, a call to readers to pay attention to the differences in these two rulers and how they treat the Hobbits, their thegns. The exchange between Denethor and Pippin begins when Pippin recognizes the object Denethor holds as being Boromir’s horn. Questioned by Denethor, he recalls Boromir’s death, focusing on his bravery: “I honour his memory, for he was very valiant. He died to save us, my kinsman Meriadoc and myself …” (RK 28). A noble and proud man, Denethor can’t believe that his strong son died while a small Halfling survived, and belittles Pippin with this question: “How were you to escape, and yet he did not, so mighty a man as he was, and only orcs to withstand him?” (RK 27). At this point, driven by his memory of Boromir’s courage and death in the woods, and also by pride in his own people, Pippin offers his service to Denethor:

Then Pippin looked the old man in the eye, for pride stirred strangely within him, still stung by the scorn and suspicion in that cold voice. “Little service, no doubt, will so great a lord of Men think to find in a hobbit, a halfling from the northern Shire; yet such as it is, I will offer it, in payment of my debt.” Twitching aside his grey cloak, Pippin drew forth his small sword and laid it at Denethor’s feet. (RK 28)

Here Tolkien provides the reader with an example of two types of pride: Denethor’s is a deep-rooted pride in part because through his use of the palantir he has fell under Sauron’s evil spell, while Pippin’s stems from humility, courage and belief in his own people. However, Pippin’s desire to prove his worth could be twisted into evil if he’s not careful, turned into the ofermod that spelled the end for Beorhtnoth and the madness that consumes Denethor in the end. By allowing Pippin to walk that fine line, Tolkien illustrates how all men are given a choice between selflessness and selfishness. Through the trials Pippin subsequently faces, he remains a Hobbit, rooted by his desire for the simple pleasures afforded by food and ale, rather than for power or renown.

Pippin’s offer of service pleases Denethor, who responds with a “pale smile” (RK 28). “It touched his heart,” Gandalf observes later (RK 32). Yet though Pippin’s offer stirred Denethor, it was still but one move in his effort towards mastery of the halfling. Warns Gandalf: “There is another side to it. You are at his command and he will not forget. Be wary still!” (RK 32). Denethor’s desire to rule Pippin is in sharp contrast to what drives Théoden, who treats Merry with love rather than pride. Even Merry’s method of swearing allegiance is in marked contrast to the vows Pippin makes. While both lay down their swords as is custom, Merry’s oath of allegiance is a heartfelt and spontaneous action. Pippin’s decision to serve Denethor is also spontaneous and heartfelt, but it springs from a desire to repay Denethor in an eye-for-an-eye manner for the untimely loss of his son. This is stressed in the oath Pippin swears, which is legally binding and invokes the usual terms of the bond between lord and warrior, according to the Germanic comitatus ethic.

“Here do I swear fealty and service to Gondor, and to the Lord and Steward of the realm, to speak and to be silent, to do and to let be, to come and to go, in need or plenty, in peace or war, in living or dying, from this hour henceforth, until my lord release me, or death take me, or the world end. So say I, Peregrin son of Paladin of the Shire of the Halflings” (RK 28).

Denethor’s response is cold and formal, a fitting description of their lord/thegn relationship: “And this do I hear, Denethor son of Ecthelion, Lord of Gondor, Steward of the High King, and I will not forget it, nor fail to reward that which is given: fealty with love, valour with honour, oath-breaking with vengeance” (RK 28). Despite the “love” mentioned in his response, Denethor’s treatment of Pippin is marked by a lack of respect and care.

Although in their first meeting, Denethor acknowledges “looks may belie a man” (RK 28) and thus accepts him into Gondor’s service, ultimately Denethor sees no more use for Pippin than as a mere servant, and a servant in the most traditional sense of the word. He has Pippin serve him food and drink and entertain him with song, rather than train him for battle. “You shall wait on me, bear errands, and talk to me,” Denethor tells Pippin (RK 79). Like many others, Denethor assumes that because the Hobbits are small, they are helpless and weak. Beregond confesses to this attitude, but he changes his mind after hearing Pippin speak of his long journey thus far: “I thought it was the whim of our Lord to take him a noble page, after the manner of kings of old, they say. But I see that it is not so, and you must pardon my foolishness” (RK 35). The Hobbits may be small but they are strong of heart, and despite the troubles facing Middle-earth and the new nation he has sworn allegiance to, Peregrin Took will not despair. Faltering in fear for a moment when a Black Rider flies by high in the sky, Pippin recovers. “No, my heart will not yet despair,” he tells Beregond, who is encouraged by his strength (RK 39). Pippin’s belief in the strength of Gondor and the forces of good is in direct contrast to Denethor’s attitude. According to Chance, Denethor’s failure is marked by an inability to love: “Denethor fails as a father and as Steward-ruler because he gives in too readily to hopelessness and despair (he fears too easily that Faramir will die and that Gandalf will be the new ruler of Gondor). Resisting his powerlessness to control the fate of his son and of his own city, he preserves the one power he believes he does have, to kill himself” (Mythology 111). In this, Denethor shows himself as a Germanic king more interested in glory and honor than in his men’s welfare; he is a lord like Beorhtnoth overtaken by his ofermod.

Denethor’s corruption and subsequent suicide earn him the label “heathen,” a title Tolkien twice applies to him, connecting him with suicide as a typical expression of the Norse stoic spirit. When notified that the first circle of the city is burning, Denethor announces he is heading for his pyre and compares himself to “heathen kings”: “We will burn like heathen kings before ever a ship sailed hither from the West” (RK 98-99). Later, when Gandalf arrives in time to save Faramir from being burned alive, he chastises Denethor: “Authority is not given to you, Steward of Gondor, to order the hour of your death. … And only the heathen kings, under the domination of the Dark Power, did thus, slaying themselves in pride and despair, murdering their own kin to ease their own death” (RK 129). Tolkien also uses the term “heathen” six times in regard to Beorhtnoth in his poem The Homecoming of Beorhtnoth. Not only does Denethor ignore the good of his subjects, but he is so self-absorbed that he must take both of his sons to death with him. In an egomaniacal display, he breaks his own staff of power, proving himself the spoiled child determined to have things as he wants or not at all, and the sinner who will not repent.

The opposite of Denethor, Pippin is an example of the Christian focus on All versus Self; when he sees Faramir (the future ruler of Gondor) in peril, he does what is needed to save his life. In this action, Pippin, a subordinate, disobeys his Lord, which would have been unacceptable in the Germanic culture, creating a key moment in this analysis of Tolkien’s opinion of the Lord/thegn relationship. “Especially when the Hobbits defy their lords’ wishes, they ultimately manage to do what is right for their lord, their people, and their own development,” remarks Lynette Porter (86). Chance also comments on this controversial behavior: “Pippin’s literal infraction of the release actually marks his obedience to the higher goal of ‘fealty and service to Gondor’ and not just to the ‘Lord and Steward of the realm.’ At the time that Pippin ‘disobeys,’ the Steward has become quite mad. Is disobedience of such a ruler disservice?” (Mythology 101). As we have already discussed, Tolkien did not think so; instead, he considered a ruler who would drive his retainers to death beside him to be immoral, such a leader as Beorhtnoth whose pride led to the death of many worthy men, and thus he shows Pippin making his own decision about what is right and wrong. Rather than base his response to his lord’s actions on blind loyalty, Pippin instead acts on what he thinks is right and honorable, a situation that illustrates how Tolkien tweaked the Germanic Lord/thegn relationship in order to reflect his emphasis on Christian principles: notably, All versus Self through love and servitude.

THE GOOD: Merry & Théoden

Examining the relationship of Merry and Théoden in direct contrast to that of Pippin and Denethor establishes a plethora of differences. While Denethor seeks to promote his own desires, Théoden wishes the good of his people. Denethor serves himself; Théoden the All. Defying a leader, which should be an example of selfishness, is instead transformed by Tolkien into an example of what is right. We see several instances of disobedience surrounding the character of Théoden. Merry and Èowyn were told to stay home to be safe, but instead both ride to battle in Gondor (Èowyn disguised as Dernhelm with Merry hidden beneath her cloak), and fulfill the prophecy regarding the Witch King’s death. Èomer allows Aragorn, Legolas and Gimli to go free when he encounters them following the trail of orcs, contrary to the law of the land. He also disobeyed his king Théoden by pursing the raiding orcs himself through Rohan and slaying them at the edge of Fangorn, and so saving the Hobbits from the clutches of Isengard, which would have put Frodo’s mission in jeapordy. The king of Rohan reflects on the wisdom of Èomer’s choice: “I owe much to Èomer. Faithful heart may have froward tongue” (TT 126). In this paragraph, Tolkien opts to use a Middle English word dating from the 13th century which means “turned away,” “adverse” or “habitually disposed to disobedience and opposition,” hinting closely at the dissimilarities in attitude between what was valued by the medieval Germanic culture and what Tolkien values.

Another, and perhaps more important example of when disobedience is preferable to blind obedience, occurs when Gandalf and his companions arrive in Edoras. Hama does not take Gandalf’s staff, despite being ordered to by Wormtongue. While musing about his choice, Hama says: “The staff in the hand of a wizard may be more than a prop for old age. Yet in doubt, a man of worth will trust to his own wisdom. I believe you are friends and folk worthy of honor, who have no evil purpose. You may go in” (TT 116). Hama’s words illustrate the situations when Tolkien believes disobedience is acceptable; this is when a man ”will trust to his own wisdom” because he thinks that the choice is better in the long run than what he was ordered to do, which mirrors Pippin’s decision in regards to Faramir. Hama’s decision has a positive outcome, proving that a man of worth can discern the better of two hard choices. Once inside the halls of Edoras, Gandalf tells Théoden to “come out before your doors and look abroad. Too long have you sat in shadows and trusted to twisted tales and crooked promptings” (TT 119). With this move, the king of Rohan leaves the darkness, stands erect and drops his staff to act as “one new-awakened” (TT 120). When he grasps hold of a sword (encouraged to do so by Gandalf and provided a weapon by Èomer) the transformation from old man to warrior takes place, and Hama’s misdeed is shown to be the best choice he could have made:

Slowly Théoden stretched forth his hand. As his fingers took the hilt, it seemed to the watchers that firmness and strength returned to his thin arm. Suddenly he lifted the blade and swung it shimmering and whistling in the air. Then he gave a great cry. His voice rang clear as he chanted in the tongue of Rohan a call to arms. … The guards … looked at their lord in amazement, and then as one man they drew their swords and laid them at his feet. “Command us,” they said. (TT 122)

Théoden is once more the Anglo-Saxon definition of heroic warrior-king and his men recognize this, pledging their renewed allegiance by laying their swords at his feet in an act reminiscent of the Germanic contract between warrior and king. They are his to command. They will follow him to the death if necessary, because they love him.

The link between Théoden and Rohan to that of the Anglo-Saxon warrior is very strong despite Tolkien’s denial that he did not model the Rohirrim off Anglo-Saxons. As horse people, the Rohirrim are tied to the Anglo-Saxons, and their very names are Old English words (for example, Théoden, which appears in Beowulf, means “king”). Throughout Lord of the Rings, Tolkien stresses the physical heroism of the Rohirrim, and particularly so in the battle at Helm’s Deep, which resembles those described in The Battle of Maldon and other medieval Anglo-Saxon poems. Unlike the connection between Beorhtnoth and his thegns, which ends in death, the friendship between Théoden and Merry celebrates life; as Porter observes: “Denethor’s parting words to Pippin tell him to prepare for death. In contrast, Théoden sternly tells Merry that he is too small to go to war and he must stay behind to be safe. Théoden consistently acts to protect Merry and values his friendship” (85). Denethor’s response to a crisis focuses on death, which mirrors the stress medieval Germanic literature put on death beside one’s Lord in battle, while Théoden ventures outside that stereotype and enjoys Merry’s company between battles.

The relationship of Théoden and Merry is one of mutual respect and friendship; they connect through tales of their own differing people told as they ride between battles. When Merry is low in spirit because he misses the companionship of Pippin, Théoden’s small act of inviting Merry to sit at his side during dinner makes a huge impact: “He had never felt more grateful for any kindness” (RK 50). Théoden follows that up by informing Merry that he’s had a “good hill-pony” made ready for Merry, and he will outfit him in gear of war. These acts of kindness (compared to the pride that drives Pippin in his relationship with Denethor) spur Merry to swear allegiance to King Théoden. “Filled suddenly with love for this old man, he knelt on one knee, and took his hand and kissed it. ‘May I lay the sword of Meriadoc of the Shire on your lap, Théoden King?’ he cried. ‘Receive my service, if you will’” (RK 50). Upon Théoden’s acceptance, Merry states, “As a father you shall be to me,” to which the king concurs, establishing a care-filled lord/thegn relationship compared to one based merely on duty. Chance comments on the value of this exchange: “Good words can express love for another as cunning words can seek to subvert another for the speaker’s own selfish ends” (Epic 218). Merry’s vow, in contrast to the oath Pippin made to Denethor, “expresses voluntary love for, rather than involuntary duty to, his king. And Théoden, unlike Denethor, represents the ideal Germanic lord who truly loves (rather than uses) his men“ (Epic 223). Viewing Merry as an equal, Théoden gifts him with a pony, stout jerkin of leather, belt, knife and shield. It doesn’t end there; as the Rohirrim muster to the aid of Rohan, Merry cements his relationship with Théoden by riding at his side, by turns telling him tales of the Shire and listening to stories about the Mark and its mighty men of old. Their bond is strengthened while camped at Dunharrow beneath the feet of the White Mountains when Théoden encourages Meriadoc to sit beside him and lighten his heart with tales. Yet, despite their friendship, when the time comes to ride off to what will be Théoden’s final battle, he instructs Merry to stay behind. ‘But why, Lord,’ Merry protests (in words much like Èowyn’s), ‘did you receive me as a swordthain, if not to stay by your side? And I would not have it said of me in song only that I was always left behind!’ (RK 77). Here Théoden illustrates his love and care for Merry, showing that he views the relationship as a father to son: “I received you for your safe-keeping,” Théoden tells Merry (RK 77).

Nonetheless, Merry will not stay behind, but rather defies his lord and rides away with Èowyn to battle at Pelennor Fields. There, he sees Théoden fall before the Nazgul king, and horror overtakes him. “‘King’s man!’ his heart cried within him. ‘You must stay by him. As a father you shall be to me, you said.’ But his will made no answer” (RK 115-16). The bravery displayed by Èowyn when she reveals herself and provokes the Nazgul Witch King awakens his “slow-kindled courage”, however, and he avenges Théoden with his own swipe at the enemy. Together, Èowyn and Merry, a woman and a halfling, destroy the Witch King and his voice “is never heard again in that age of the world” (RK 117). Merry then stays beside Théoden to hear his last words honoring his warriors – in contrast to the mad ravings Pippin hears from Denethor at the end – and accompanies both the injured Èowyn and the body of Théoden into the city of Minas Tirith. Following this heroic deed and steadfast loyalty, Merry, who like Èowyn, feared insignificance, becomes a “Rider of Rohan,” “Holdwine of the Mark,” a halfling who is held in honor in Minas Tirith and who, along with Pippen (“Prince of the Halflings”), receives great homage back at home, observes Burns (148). Most importantly, Merry and Pippin have proved that despite their seeming disobedience of their lords, their notion of service fulfilled the requirements of a good German thegn and, in Tolkien’s mind, that of the good Christian, as well. For it is what Pippin and Merry did without sword that earns them true praise. In Tolkien’s work, versus that of medieval texts, the heroism of the warrior “depends more on love and loyalty than on expressions of valor in battle,” according to Chance (Epic 221), and in this we see how Tolkien’s view of heroism and the proper conduct for a thegn differs from the Germanic ideal. Neither Merry nor Pippin bases their actions on blind loyalty to their leaders. They make their own decisions based on their internal codes of honor, which are shaped by what they believe to be good and true, and as Théoden praises Èomer for doing, so Tolkien holds up Pippin and Merry as examples of ethical behavior in action.

THE BEST: Aragorn & Host of Gondor

Norse literature clearly states what the expected responsibility of thegn to Lord was, but it does not deal with how the Lord was responsible for the lives of his retainers. Tolkien directly addresses this in The Lord of the Rings. Unwilling to be responsible for the death of his niece to whom he has been a father, Théoden instructs her to stay back and lead the women and children; he’s acting out of love for Èowyn rather than his own selfish reasons, which he also demonstrates in his actions towards the hobbit Merry whom he has recently met. But even Théoden is overshadowed in merciful actions by the virtuous Aragorn, a Christ-like figure, who is recognized as a king by his treatment of the wounded: “The hands of the king are the hands of a healer, and so shall the rightful king be known” (RK 139). Celtic sentiment balances out the Norse warrior in Aragorn, and we have a king men will willingly follow and lay down their lives for. Aragorn doesn’t take this responsibility lightly, or subject his retainers to carry out his own will over the good of the All; he will not ask his thegns to do anything he is unwilling to do, and he remains attuned to the minds of the soldiers.

When some of the host are unmanned while marching towards the Black Gates of Mordor, and will neither walk nor ride further north, Aragorn looks at them, and there is pity in his eyes rather than wrath:

“Go,” said Aragorn. “But keep what honour you may, and do not run! And there is a task to which you may attempt and so be not wholly shamed. … Then some being shamed by his mercy overcame their fear and went on, and the others took new hope, hearing of a manful deed within their measure that they could turn to, and they departed. (RK 162)

The character of Aragorn is a response to the attitude Tolkien expressed in The Homecoming of Beorhtnoth: “When your shield is shivered / between shame and death is hard choosing” (Reader 10). Aragorn proves himself to be a knowledgeable and merciful leader who understands the difficulty men feel when facing death, and as Lord he is driven by compassion rather than anger by the actions of his thegns. In this understanding of the real cost of war shown through Aragorn’s actions is the pain and agony Tolkien saw firsthand in World War I. His own life experiences molded a new view of the Lord/thegn relationship in Old English literature, and Tolkien created a King in Aragorn who exemplifies these qualities that he admires, as well as the others-before-self attitude of Christ.

Tolkien was inspired by the courage and resolve demonstrated by his own countrymen in the trenches of the World War I, which he phrased as “the indomitable courage of quite small people against impossible odds,” according to Humphrey Carpenter (Biography 180). He disliked the officers who, in pride and folly made unrealistic and disastrous decisions, sending the common soldiers to their deaths; men like his childhood friends Rob Gilson and G.B. Smith died in France during World War I. This opinion came out very clearly later in life when he wrote The Homecoming of Beorhtnoth, and is also illustrated by which characters Tolkien shows in a favorable light. Anne Pienciak observes, echoing lines from The Battle of Maldon: “Théoden believes in the heroic ethic of the Anglo-Saxon epics: ‘Will shall be the sterner, heart the bolder, spirit the greater as our strength lessens’” (28). The warrior never gives into despair no matter how the battle goes. The same could also be said of Aragorn who marches to the Black Gates knowing he cannot win the battle, but determined to distract Sauron so that Frodo’s quest might succeed. Tolkien strongly believes that war fought for selfish purposes will feel empty when won, while a battle fought for others will be fulfilling. In a letter that he never sent, Tolkien stated: “I think that the ‘victors’ can never enjoy ‘victory’ -- not in the terms that they envisaged; and in so far as they fought for something to be enjoyed by themselves (whether acquisition or mere preservation) the less satisfactory the ‘victory’ will seem” (Letters 235). Here again Tolkien emphasizes All versus the Self; it is only those battling for the good of others out of love and servitude who are able to feel satisfaction when it is over. A battle fought for Self is empty.

It is this strong belief in servitude versus selfishness that drove Tolkien when he began fashioning a world in his fiction. By creating two similar characters in the Hobbits Merry and Pippin, Tolkien provides a way to examine how the choices of both leaders and thegns affect one another. Using disobedience as his method of pinpointing what is truly right and wrong, Tolkien encapsulates his opinion that a man must use his own judgment and not blindly follow orders, even when they come to a thegn from his Lord. Ofermod is a trait to be avoided and shunned for it leads to death, while true loyalty focuses on the larger good. Through disobedience, Pippin and Merry prove their worth to their adopted countries, and ensure that their names are praised long after they return home to the Shire; neither acts courageously out of any desire for personal acclaim, however, but from an unselfish desire to do what is right and honorable for All. Completeness is not to be found in the selfishness, pride and eventual despair of Denethor, but in the love and compassion of Théoden, Aragorn, Merry and Pippin. It is through this shift in focus that Tolkien’s lesson to his readers can be found: serve All rather than Self.

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